The Day I Got Sick of My own Excuses.



There comes a moment in life when excuses stop comforting you and start embarrassing you. For me, that moment came quietly. There was no big failure, no dramatic event. Just a deep feeling of being tired of my own words. Tired of saying I would do better tomorrow. Tired of explaining why I was not where I wanted to be.

I realized that my excuses were no longer protecting me. They were trapping me. And that realization changed everything.

How Excuses Slowly Took Control

At first, my excuses sounded reasonable. I told myself I was busy. I told myself the timing was wrong. I said I would start when I had more resources, more confidence, or more clarity.

Each excuse felt small on its own. But together, they built a wall between who I was and who I wanted to become. Days passed without progress. Weeks passed with the same plans. I stayed stuck while pretending I was being patient.

The truth was painful. I was not waiting for the right time. I was avoiding discomfort.

The Comfort Trap

Excuses feel good in the moment. They reduce pressure. They protect your ego. They give you a story to tell yourself and others about why you have not moved forward.

But comfort has a cost. The longer I stayed comfortable, the harder it became to take action. Comfort slowly turned into regret. I started feeling disappointed in myself, not because I failed, but because I never truly tried.

That disappointment became heavier than the fear I was avoiding.

The Moment Everything Shifted

One day, I caught myself repeating the same excuse I had used months before. That is when it hit me. Nothing had changed because I had not changed anything.

I realized that if I kept listening to my excuses, my future would look exactly like my past. That thought scared me more than failure ever did. I did not want to look back years later and realize I talked myself out of my own potential.

That was the day I decided to stop negotiating with my excuses.

Facing the Real Reasons Behind Excuses

When I looked deeper, I realized my excuses were rooted in fear. Fear of failing. Fear of being judged. Fear of starting and discovering I was not as capable as I hoped.

Excuses were easier than facing those fears. But avoiding fear does not remove it. It only makes it stronger. Once I accepted that fear was part of growth, excuses lost their power.

Choosing Responsibility Over Blame

Another big shift happened when I stopped blaming circumstances. I blamed lack of time, lack of support, and lack of opportunities. While some challenges were real, they were not the main problem.

The real problem was that I gave those challenges too much control. Taking responsibility did not mean blaming myself. It meant recognizing that my choices mattered more than my excuses.

Responsibility gave me power. Excuses took it away.

Small Actions Replaced Big Promises

I stopped making big promises to myself. Instead, I focused on small actions.

Ten minutes of work became my new rule. One paragraph. One lesson. One step forward. These small actions felt almost too simple, but they worked.

Progress began quietly. Confidence followed slowly. For the first time, I felt movement instead of pressure.

Learning to Be Honest With Myself

The hardest part was honesty. I had to admit when I was avoiding something. I had to stop pretending that delay was strategy.

Being honest did not make me weaker. It made me clearer. Once I could name my excuses, I could challenge them.

Honesty turned excuses into decisions, and decisions can be changed.

What I Do Differently Now

I still feel resistance sometimes. I still feel tempted to delay. The difference is that I no longer let excuses decide for me.

When I hear an excuse in my mind, I pause and ask myself one question. Is this helping my future or protecting my comfort? That question usually tells me the truth.

I choose action more often now, even when it feels uncomfortable.

What You Can Learn From This

If you feel stuck, listen to your excuses. Not to obey them, but to understand them.

Excuses reveal fear, doubt, and insecurity. Those things do not mean you are weak. They mean you are human. Growth begins when you stop letting excuses run your life and start taking small, honest steps forward.

Final Thoughts

The day I got sick of my own excuses was not the day I became perfect. It was the day I became responsible.

Living an Anti-Later Life is not about never delaying. It is about noticing when delay turns into a habit and choosing action instead.

Your excuses are not your enemy. Letting them control you is. You have more power than you think, and it starts with one honest decision today.





**✍️ Mr. Now Guy (Donlewis Nyairo)**  

*Real thoughts. Real struggle. Real progress.*


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